Trip to Pondy

hi I'm going to talk about puducherry trip . I woke up early and I got ready and went to the car. the driver service was Murugan. murugan helps everything . At Tindivanam highway we were seeing the name board in google photos that was located near to petromax home cook where is it located in 6th cross street . After that we went to hotel Aishwarya for breakfast . I ordered sambar idly and others ordered dosa , puri ,Pongal and regular idly . Having breakfast we went to panchamukha temple the god was very peaceful after praying the God we went to paradise boathouse . There were different types of boats , peddler boat ,sail boat and motor boat . but motorboat was very fast . Other boats are very slow it will take many years and many many weeks. We got out at the paradise beach there were activity room and different types of play area like bouncy castle . I cannot put my legs in the castle it was fiery fiery fire like that and we got off to visit the paradise beach we sat in the shade left off the beach and climbed in the boat again and the came back to the boathouse again , outside the boathouse there were different types of toy cars we tried there brown colour Jeep . uncle was pressing remote control to ride the car after that after that we went to kamakshi mess After lunch we went to garden to drop off my grandpa he was single and sad . After that we left off for the next Botanical Garden call garuda park it was fun feeding to parrots . After that we went for the Marina beach at puducherry we picked my grandfather and left off . after that we went to mother restaurant after having snacks we almost got to home this is how the blog pondicherry happened

Are you ready to die ?

Title might sound crazy ,no body wants to die right and if you talk about death to someone you may be tagged as sadist .But fact is death is ultimate truth death is as normal as birth but we all refuse to accept it.I recently happen to view Ishayoga guru's speech on SS music ,i was wondering why do SS music does telecast program like this ,when they already have cool and beautiful Anchors to attract all the viewers :-) between iam a great fan of shreya ,was totally upset when she decided to quit TV anchoring, now VJ Paloma is filling the void created by shreya :-),Ok coming to the point i was talking about what Sadhguru's explanation on death here it is " Nobody experienced death , death is something that cannot be explained by the some who experience it to others .When we are all born we are very small ,weighing roughly around 2 kgs , now we have consumed things from nature and grown to this level ,it is a loan from the nature we took that made us to be what we are now,so when time comes the person who gave loan is asking the money back(your life) ,going with loan analogy if you are good customer you will make maximum use of the money you get and multiply the amount you borrowed to such a extent that you will be more than happy to return the money anytime on the other hand if you are bad customer you would have wasted all the money you borrowed and when the bankers ask for the money you would hide ,lie, runaway to protect yourself.Life is the loan from nature ,one should make maximum use of it and live the life to the fullest in every moment without sorrow,without fear,with lots of love and if you live the life to the fullest you will be ready to die anytime because you haven't left anything undone in your life in that moment.

so Are you ready to die ??? :-)

Decidophobia

Decisions, decisions and more decisions! The fear of making serious decisions is a new kind of fear, called decidophobia.

We make numerous decision each day every moment some aware and some unaware,some simple and some complex.Few simple decision could be what to wear to office today , what to have for breakfast ,lunch..,some complex decision could be choosing which course to join after school ,which job offer to take ,right life partner,these are complex because these decisions are mostly irreversible or consequences would be high if a wrong decision is made ,in these scenario we get into decidophobia.

Often we avoid taking serious decisions ourself .

• Delaying the decision hoping that something will happen on its own.
• Giving the responsibility to other .(This common in our society most of the decisions are made by parents)
• Following something which worked before.(Your cousin got good job after doing MBA ,so you are also doing)
• Believing in supernatural stuffs ,god ,astrology,palmistry etc.,
• sometimes we avoid thinking about the decision itself.

Strange thing is we leave the serious decision making responsibility to others which is going to affect us.A delayed decision is as good as not making any decision at all.

lets look into what best can be done to make good decision .The first principle in making good decision is that you must not fool yourself,be honest to yourself first.

A decision usually involves three steps:

1. A recognition of a need: A dissatisfaction within oneself--a void or need;
2. A decision to change--to fill the void or need;
3. A conscious dedication to implement the decision.

More to follow ..

Me & My Guitar

Golden Five Letters -S.P.A.C.E

Nothing Much to say -Jus remember these five letters before you react to any situation ,you are going to Win.
S = Situational Awareness; “reading” situations, people, interactions, andcontexts.
P = Presence; also known as “bearing”; how one presents one’s self insituations.
A = Authenticity; behaving honestly, with integrity, and from a clear senseof self.
C = Clarity; skill at asking, telling, persuading, and getting one’s ideas into the minds of others.
E = Empathy; the skill of connecting with people, on a personal and meaningfullevel; getting them to move with and toward you rather than away andagainst you.

My Prayer !

Let me not pray to be sheltered from dangers
but to be fearless in facing them.

Let me not beg for the stilling of my pain
but for the heart to conquer it.

Let me not look for allies in life's battlefield
but to my own strength.

Let me not crave in anxious fear to be saved
but hope for the patience to win my freedom.

Grant me that I may not be a coward,
feeling your mercy in my success alone;
but let me find the grasp of your hand in my failure.

- Rabindranath Tagore

Being Assertive !

Being assertive is most essential skill to be developed . It takes lot of practice and determination to develop assertiveness.Being assertive helps one to express what they want without affecting the others and get ourself free from the sense of guilty for our action .It helps one to take control and be responsible for what ever they do .

Most of the people fall into following categories ,Passive and Aggressive. Lets briefly analyse each behaviour.

Passive : Passive people are more worried what other people think about what they do , They are more concerned about others then their own . Frequently they fall victim to aggressive people , they never speak up just because the other might not like them . They consider being good to others will make them popular.

Aggressive : Aggressive people force things they want , they don't consider what the other feel abut their behaviour .They use their authority or threaten people to get things done .Aggressive people continues to do this since they get what they want .But they don't realise that they are gaining silent enemies whom they are not aware of due to their aggressive behaviour.

We are passive or Aggressive due various factors that surrounds us , way we are brought up , our friends ,society . In Indian society we are always told to respect elders ,be courteous , be good to all .This lead us to a passive behaviour and we continue to please others at the cost of our own comfort and liking.(the same point i mentioned on of my entry "saying-yes-when-one-should-say-no" ).

There are different ways of using assertiveness depending upon the situation.Here are the few .

• Keep expressing the same point until you get it done .Ex: If some is not moving there files from your desk and makes excuses for days .keep them telling again and again.


• When u get some advice u don't want to agree but at same time u want to avoid any conflict ,be assertive by agreeing the point and don't commit to implement it .Ex: If someone tells long hair is not good for u .. tell them just" may be and i will think about Ur suggestion."


• Tell them what they are going to face to face if they continue doing the same .If you are feeling hurt due to some one's behaviour tell them they hurt you directly and it may cost them your relation .


• Arrive at some mutual beneficial solution when there difficult situation you cant avoid .Ex: If Ur colleague wants to go home early due to unavoidable work and asks u to do the remaining work ,tell him that he should do same when you want .


• Don't take the blame for others .. make them responsible for their action.


• When u have done something really wrong accept it rather than false argument , which would make the situation worst.


• Never ever criticize the person . Concentrate only on what is wrong rather than who is wrong.
  
  Above are only a few points ,there are lot to practice .
  
  The main objective is to speak out and to avoid "what if i spoke kinda "feeling .

"you deserve what you want only if you determined to get it "